Living life the Nova way, By Osmund Agbo

So, the next time life throws you a curveball, the job falls through, a friend disappears, the plan goes off course, don’t be too quick to judge it. Don’t rush to call it a failure or a misfortune. Instead, remember Sai Weng. Remember Nova. And say quietly to yourself: “Who knows if it’s good or bad?”.. Because maybe, just maybe, it’s life doing what life does best: taking away what you thought you needed, so it can give you what you truly do.

This past weekend, my wife and I made our way to Winnipeg, a sleepy town nestled in the Canadian province of Manitoba. The occasion? A family celebration. My niece and her husband had just welcomed a beautiful baby girl, and they insisted, almost reverently, that my wife become the godmother. It was a request we could not, and, frankly, did not want to, refuse.

Winnipeg or “Winterpeg” as some Canadians jokingly call it, is cold enough to make you question global warming, even in the summer. But despite the chill, we were warmed by the lavish hospitality of our hosts. For a few days, we were indulged and pampered, made to feel like visiting royalty. The trip also happened to coincide with my wife’s birthday, so if you’ll allow the cliché, we managed to kill two birds with one stone. And my wallet, thankfully, caught a break.

The return leg of the journey, however, was less than regal. What was meant to be a five-hour layover in Minneapolis, inexplicably stretched into eight. Frustration simmered, and I could feel the familiar dread that accompanies long airport delays beginning to rise within me. My years of frequent travels had conditioned me to equate extended layovers with psychological warfare.

But my wife, ever composed, turned to me and said, “Maybe this delay is a blessing in disguise. Who knows?” She pulled out her phone and started searching for nearby attractions. Her calm acceptance, her ability to pause and wonder instead of complain, was, for me, the first lesson of the day.

That’s how we ended up in the famed Mall of America in Bloomington, just four miles from the airport. Towering and audacious, the Mall of America is the largest shopping complex in the Western Hemisphere. It is a spectacle of commerce and leisure, retail stores, amusement rides, even an aquarium. Yet, what stayed with me was not the grandeur of the mall, but something deeper: a reminder that not everything that appears inconvenient is misfortune.

There is an ancient Chinese tale: the parable of Sai Weng and his horse.

In the story, Sai Weng’s prized horse ran away. His neighbours, quick to empathise, lamented his misfortune. But the old man, with a curious calm, replied, “Who knows if it’s good or bad?”

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Days later, the horse returned, this time with a wild stallion in tow. The neighbours celebrated his good fortune, but again, he responded, “Who knows if it’s good or bad?”

Eventually, Sai Weng’s son tried to ride the stallion, only to fall and break his leg. More condolences followed.
But when the emperor’s army arrived to conscript able-bodied young men for a distant war, his injured son was spared. And once more, the refrain: “Who knows if it’s good or bad?”

This story is more than folklore. It’s philosophy. A profound reminder that we are often too quick to judge our circumstances, too eager to classify events as blessings or curses, without the clarity that only hindsight provides.

We live in a world of immediate reactions. We want to know right now: Was this good or bad? A win or a loss? Success or failure? But life doesn’t operate on such binary terms. What looks like a curse today might be tomorrow’s saving grace.

This idea is echoed in what’s now known as The Nova Effect, a modern retelling of the same ancient truth. The Nova Effect teaches us that we simply don’t know what the future holds, and that life’s seemingly random, even painful disruptions often serve a higher, if hidden, purpose. It’s a lesson that comes up again and again, not just in fables or philosophy, but in real life. I’ve lived this truth myself.

After graduating from medical school, I spent nearly two years chasing what I thought was my destiny: a postgraduate programme in Germany. I relocated to Lagos, enrolled in German language courses at the Goethe Institute, and took up a modest job to support myself. The experience was gruelling, emotionally, financially, and physically. But I pressed on, driven by the belief that my sacrifices would one day be rewarded.

Eventually, I became proficient enough in the language and began submitting applications. Each one was crafted with care, backed by meticulously compiled documentation. I was thorough, hopeful, and resolute.

Then came the visa interview. It lasted less than five minutes. Rejected. Just like that, everything crumbled. I walked out of the consulate in disbelief, hollowed out by a sense of futility. It felt like watching years of dreams disintegrate in slow motion.

A friend later suggested I consider applying to the United States. Ironically, the US had always been my dream, but I had dismissed it as unrealistic. At that point, I was too drained to dream again, let alone act on it.

But time moved on, and I gave it a shot. Now, years later, I find myself living a life in America that far exceeds anything I ever imagined for myself in Germany, a life brimming with opportunity, growth, and a deep sense of fulfillment.

I often catch myself wondering how things might have turned out had I gotten what I wanted back then, had I relocated to Germany, a country far less diverse and offering far fewer opportunities in my career. What once felt like a crushing rejection now reveals itself, in hindsight, as a hidden blessing.

It wasn’t a dead end, it was a redirection. A quiet, merciful intervention that steered me toward the life I was truly meant to live.

Of course, I couldn’t have known that at the time. I didn’t have a map that revealed the bigger picture. All I saw was a door slammed shut. But time, as it often does, revealed the truth: that not all disappointments are denials. Some are detours, unseen mercies wrapped in misfortune.

This isn’t to romanticise pain. Betrayal hurts. Loss wounds. Rejection stings. But what if these experiences aren’t punishments? What if they’re protections? How often have you looked back and realised that the job you didn’t get, the relationship that ended, the person who walked away, all those losses you once grieved, were actually gifts in disguise?

Maybe that job would’ve drained your joy. Maybe that relationship would have eroded your peace. Maybe that friend was more weight than wings.

We tend to see pain as an end, but often it’s a beginning. The worst thing that happens to you may be the best thing that ever happened for you. You just don’t know it yet.

This is the essence of living life the Nova way: resisting the urge to label every event, to declare every twist as good or bad. It’s about trading control for curiosity, and certainty for openness. It’s about trusting that life, even in its chaos, may be unfolding exactly as it should.

Stoic philosophy echoes this wisdom. Epictetus taught that we should focus only on what we can control, and let go of what we cannot. Painful outcomes? Other people’s choices? Delays, detours, heartbreaks? They’re often beyond us. What remains within our power is how we respond, whether with bitterness or with grace.

In the end, we must make peace with the truth that we won’t always understand the purpose of every event as it’s happening. The dots only connect when we look back. That missed flight, that lost opportunity, that broken relationship, they might be the very things that shaped our resilience, rerouted us to safer paths, or brought us to deeper joy.

So, the next time life throws you a curveball, the job falls through, a friend disappears, the plan goes off course, don’t be too quick to judge it. Don’t rush to call it a failure or a misfortune. Instead, remember Sai Weng. Remember Nova. And say quietly to yourself: “Who knows if it’s good or bad?”

Because maybe, just maybe, it’s life doing what life does best: taking away what you thought you needed, so it can give you what you truly do.

Osmund Agbo is a US-based medical doctor and author. His works include Black Grit, White Knuckles: The Philosophy of Black Renaissance and a fiction work titled The Velvet Court: Courtesan Chronicles. His latest works, Pray, Let the Shaman Die and Ma’am, I Do Not Come to You for Love, have just been released.