My husband lazy in bed, divorce-seeking wife tells court

couples holding hands [Photo Credit: Oak Brook]
couples holding hands [Photo Credit: Oak Brook]

A Mapo Customary Court in Ibadan on Tuesday dissolved the 10-year-old marriage between one Iyabo Adedayo and her husband, Babatunde, over lack of sexual satisfaction and irresponsibility.

The President of the court, Ademola Odunade, said that the marriage was dissolved due to irreconcilable differences.

“It is possible to take horse to the river, but impossible to force it to drink water.

“The court tried to settle the matter between Iyabo and Babatunde, but there was no solution.

“Therefore, in the interest of peaceful coexistence, the union between Iyabo and Babatunde has been terminated.

“Iyabo shall take custody of the four children produced by the union.

“Babatunde shall pay a monthly feeding allowance of N10,000 for the upkeep of the children in addition to being responsible for their education and other welfare needs,” he said.

Iyabo, the petitioner, had told the court that the respondent had been unable to satisfy her sexually.

“My lord, I no longer have any feeling for Babatunde again; he is lazy in bed and he can no longer satisfy me sexually.

“For so long, I had been coping with his inability to withstand my sexual urge, but I can’t cope with this any longer.

“My husband is also unable to take care of the material needs of our children and I.

“To worsen the situation, he derives pleasure in beating me at the slightest provocation,” Iyabo said.

The respondent, however, pleaded with the court to save his marriage.

Babatunde, who urged Iyabo to give him another chance, said: My lord, please save my marriage, I still love my wife, I will turn a new leaf.

“I cannot afford parting ways with my wife now. I am already an old man; I can’t start looking for a new wife at my age.”



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  • Frank Bassey

    Most of these marriages are not really marriages. They are temporary and dubious union of concubines made possible by convenience. Why is this common among the Yoruba?

    • Pawa2

      A man called Bassey is trying to ‘dis’ Yorubas about marriage and infidelity. Women from your area will f–ck anything and are not known for their faithfulness in marriage. The men are the same. Have you heard of the phrase encouraging people to remove the log from their eye before attempting to remove the speck from someone else’s eye?

  • Chukwuka Okoroafor

    So due to sexual dissatisfaction and maybe possible domestic violence incidents, this woman will now take her husband to the cleaners. I thought this was a problem in the West predominately but it appears it is now a Nigerian problem, at least in Yorubaland and the customary system there.

    • Pawa2

      I don;t know why you think divorce and being unhappy in a marriage is predominant in the west compared to other parts of the country. In fact the northern people have by far bigger problems when it comes to divorce and some of the northern governors have raised their concerns recently.
      Go to ibo land and see how it is difficult to distinguish between a housewife and a prostitute. Perhaps that type of arrangement is acceptable to them, but I know a lot of divorce cases in Lagos involve ibo couples. Also, there is more reporting of court cases in the west, due to the fact that Lagos has by far the highest number of media houses and news outlets in the country and the western states are within proximity of Lagos.
      Any woman/man who is not happy with his/her marriage is free to seek to be dissociated from it, and Yoruba people know their rights. You must know that in a case (especially divorce cases) people exaggerate the stories so they can obtain the result they want. Otherwise, why will two people want (ordinarily) to share that type of story with the public. Women, especially, have to make strong claims to ensure they get a dissolution of marriage, otherwise (due to cultural reasons, which frown against divorce) they will be forced to stick with the marriage.

      • Chukwuka Okoroafor

        But in the North, do women take the husbands to the cleaners? That is what I was arguing. Remember that the divorces are through Sharia. In Igboland itself, divorces are less common though perhaps in Lagos, we will see some of that among Igbo couples. I of course discourage divorce all though out but I was particularly concerned about divorce becoming a tool to financially clean a spouse in Nigeria. In the Western world, it is a big industry nowadays.