Wife seeks divorce over husband’s “withdrawal method” during sex

High court

A 36-year-old seamstress, Sherifat Adetunji, on Friday pleaded at a Lagos Island Customary Court that her marriage should be dissolved on ground that her husband was no longer ejaculating inside her during sex.

The mother of two said her 10-year-old marriage was blissful until five years ago when things started changing.

She lamented that her husband could go a year or more without making love to her and that when he did he would not ejaculate inside her.

“My husband has been starving me sexually, sometimes he will not touch me for a whole year and when he did, he would not release inside me.

“I have complained severally about my dissatisfaction over his attitude towards our sexual life, but has refused to change,” she said.

She told the court that her husband once brought a strange man into their house to perform some rituals in the middle of the night and since then she started emaciating.

“My husband brought a man to pass the night in our house and that in the middle of the night they performed some rituals since then I have been growing lean.

“He did not show any concern about my state of health or why I was growing lean everyday,” Mrs. Adetunji said.

She, therefore, prayed the court to dissolve the marriage and give her the custody of their two children, Alia, 8, and Kismat, 5.

Her husband, Monsuru, 38, a trader, told the court that he thought his wife was happy in their marriage because they hardly quarreled.

He said he was surprised when she packed out of the house and brought him to court for the dissolution of their marriage.

He admitted his sexual behaviour, saying that it was due to the current economic recession so as to prevent his wife from getting pregnant.

“I stopped making love to her regularly and releasing in her because of the present economic situation in the country so that she does not get pregnant.

“The man she said I brought home was a distant relation who had no place to pass the night.

“The reason why my wife is reducing in size is because she does not give herself rest of mind, she is always worried about one thing or the other,” he said.

He urged the court to dissolve the marriage as he was no longer interested in the marriage because she had packed out of their matrimonial home.

The Court President, Awos Awosola, said that marriage institution could only work if the two were in agreement.

“Marriage is for two people, not one; your wife should also have a say in the home.

“Since she has complained severally that you are starving her sexually, you should have made amends.

“If you do not want to get her pregnant you can always use condom,” he said.

Mr. Awosola urged the two parties to maintain the peace and adjourned the case to Feb. 16 for further hearing. (NAN)


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  • Iskacountryman

    i blame this divorce on the apc government…during pdp condoms were free…

  • Dazmillion

    Whats the judge business about the man’s ejaculation, he shouldnt dabble into areas where he lacks training. Is it not obvious that there is lack of communication between the man and the woman. They should both sit down and talk about all the issues affecting their marriage, since the man said they hardly quarrel

    • Wale

      Ejaculation or lack of it is part of what the wife brought before the court.

      • Dazmillion

        Yes the woman brought up the issue pf ejaculation, but the judge then went on to start recommending condom to the man, is he a law officer or doctor?

  • Aminu

    President Jonathan must be blamed for this marital problems that these Nigerians are having.

  • Arkhuma

    I don’t know what further hearing is needed in this case. They both wanted out. The judge should just give his judgment and award custody to who among them that is capable of giving the children the best. These judges should stop wasting time and move on to other cases.

  • easyman16

    The man is trying not To be a Nusance but the woman who new nothing but SEX has chosen to so that she can be producing children here and there like birds that she can’t even take care of. don’t be Surprised that she is just a house wife, The judge should have asked her what she does for a living.

  • Impulse400

    What is wrong with this Judge…? Abi he nor go school. The woman complained that her husband doesn’t ejaculate inside, and you ask the husband to use a condom to ejaculate inside. How would the sperm enter the woman…? Or are both actions not the same…? I can’t understand his reasoning.

    The woman wants the sperm to be inside her, so that it can return her weight lost… and the judge wants the sperm in a nylon bag, therefore the husband is guilty of wrong contraceptive method.

    The judge and the tailor should hook up. They would fit each other. The husband is wise to dispose of such a nag.